Why Can’t a Muslim Woman Marry a Non-Muslim Man?

QWhy can’t a Muslim woman marry a Non-Muslim man? It is important. Pls Answer soon. Thanks, Zahid

ABismillaahi walĥamdulillaahi waŝŝalaatu wassalaamu ‘alaa rasoolillaahi. 
Dear Zahid,

Because your question is brief, it is difficult for me to address the specific points that concern you. So, I can only answer in general terms.

Let us first discuss it from a Muslim’s perspective. A Muslim is a person who has voluntarily accepted Allaah as his or her Lord and Sovereign Master, and surrendered to Him as His slave. So, the brief and straight answer to a Muslim is:  Because Allaah so commanded! And He did not give us a reason, because He does not have to. He is the Sovereign Master. He can give whatever command He likes. It is His right as our Creator. Who are we to ask Him, why? We are His slaves, and slaves cannot ask why or what for! They obey the Master without asking questions. And that is what Allaah expects from Muslims.

We know that Allaah’s commands and decisions are based on His infinite wisdom and, hence, are always purposeful, meaningful and useful. We may not necessarily understand His wisdom, but we still obey Him readily, happily and enthusiastically. To bide by His law, we do not need to know His reasons for His wisdom. Thus, we listen to Him and obey Him without asking any questions at all. If anyone reserves his obedience to Allaah until he understands the rational of His command, he is not obeying Allaah but is, in fact, obeying his own understanding.

Therefore, the knowledge that this command is from Allaah and that He knows what He is doing should be enough. If you cannot accept that, you need to re-evaluate if you believe in Allaah with all His attributes. In that case, your quest should start with Allaah Himself, instead of one of His commands. You should first find answers to questions such as: Does Allaah exist? Does He know everything? Is He Wise?

You might be asking because one of your non-Muslims friends has challenged you about it. In that case, you need to explain the reality to your friend instead of going into reasons as to why Allaah commanded what He commanded. You should explain to your friend that it is a command of Allaah and Allaah being the Master, does not always tell His reasons, nor does He have to. The real question to explore is if He exists and if He has right to give commands. What does it matter what Allaah commands if the belief is that He does not exist, that Muslims have just fabricated His being? However, if one concludes that Allaah exists, the next questions are: is the Qur-aan His book or not? Is Muĥammad His Messenger or not? If they are not, then Islam is automatically a farce; so who cares what it says? If it is agreed upon that the Qur-aan is the Book of Allaah, then we need to see if it is preserved or not. If it is preserved, does it contain this command or not? Then, we will discuss the command. Discussing a command without discussing all the questions of faith is a sheer waste of time and energy: both yours and your friend’s.

I know you were expecting that I would share a list of rationale of why it is not a good idea for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim, but that is not the proper way.

July 28, 2011

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